Stop trying.

 

Now I know this sounds like some interesting advice, but hear me out.  We say and hear the word "try" all.the.time. especially when it comes to diet &fitness.  I'm trying to lose weight, I'll try to get to class, I'll try to make dinner at home.  These statements are usually followed by a BUT.  But...I'm really busy this month, but it's hard for me to wake up in time, but I never have time to get to the grocery store. 

I get it, life is stressful and we are all crazy busy, but how about you don't TRY. You either do or you don't.  

Trying is an excuse, a way out, a justification. It can set you up for failure. Here's what happens: Well I tried and it didn't work or I tried but just couldn't make it.  Just that statement brings you down and is so low-vibe.  I'm going to like a little fire under your cute tush and make a suggestion: How about don't try...just do

OR how about you don't even try to do whatever it is think you should do and take a big ass sigh of relief.  Give yourself freedom to NOT try, how about that?  What a relief! Maybe you felt pressured by friends or even social media into doing something you could care less about.  Maybe you didn't want to go to that class any damn way or the Keto diet sounds miz....so don't do it. And guess what- that's OK.  Save your energy and your focus for something you DO want to do and go into it full ass...not half ass ;). 

As a total "yes" person, I find myself saying  “yes I'll try” or “maybe I can be there”, when really I know for a fact I won't make it- or just straight up don’t want to go/don’t have time, yaddah yaddah.  Rather than saying something like "I’d love to but I can't take that on right now"...I'm all...MAYBE. And then of course I let it hang over my head for days until I end up feeling like crap when I have to finally say no. OR I say yes as an automatic response without my whole heart/brain on board, when I know for sure it should have been a no off the bat. Oy.  It's tough and I know so many of you gals do the same thing.

I find that often I'll be wishy washy about something and run it by my hubby.  His response can be so clear and is always in alignment with what my gut says.  It's my goal to be more definitive in my decisions and put myself and my little fam 1st. I’m trying my best to just trust my gut and do what I WANT, not what I think I should or what others want me to.

Soooooooooooo I got a little off track but as I was saying, don't waste your energy trying. Do that thing or don't. Don’t be wish washy or constantly on the fence. Eat the veggies because you WANT to. Go to the class because you WANT to, not because you think you should. Find the WHY behind the action then decide.  Either way life goes on! You're all good. 

Mental shifts:

I'm trying to get more flexible ---> I've been stretching all the time to get more flexible.

I'm trying to drink more water ---> I fill my water bottle up 6x/day which is way more than I used to.

I'm trying to be healthy ---> I'm eating more veggies than ever before. I can really feel the difference.

I'll try to workout 3x this week ---> I WILL workout 3x this week

See the positive shifts here? Less trying, more doing.

Train yo brain! 

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